Written by: Lindsy Stumpenhorst
Live in the Present
Look to the Future
Learn from the Past
When my daughter was 2-years old I remember her walking over to me and pointing to her nose. I thought maybe she had bumped it so I gave the bridge of her nose a quick “get better kiss” and turned to walk away. At this point my daughter started to cry, and I dropped my gaze just long enough to see a handful of crafting gems in her little fist. You could probably hear the gears aligning in my head when I realized that my intelligent, beautiful, spunky daughter had shoved one of those glittering gems up her nose.
Live in the Present…
There were so many thoughts going through my mind, and so many things I wanted to say, sternly, to her. There was a moment though when she looked at me that I realized the most important thing I could do in the present, would be to find a safe way to create an unobstructed breathing passage. The situation we were currently in would not change with scolding or consequences.
Look to the Future….
We did successfully dislodge the gem without a doctor visit. In order to prevent future “incidences” I spent time that same day (and in days following) teaching her the many reasons why we have to be able to breath, and not put strange things up our nose.
Learn from the Past…
I struggle to remember the order of my thoughts following this incident, but one was “I never thought MY kid would do something like this”. This was a valuable lesson to me. In learning from the past I was, thankfully, able to have a safe exposure to reality. I was able to see the importance of answering “why” questions and that my children are not invincible from poor decision making or mischievous curiosity.
As I begin to envision how the end of the school year will be for my students and staff, I want to continue to;
Live in the Present, and not let a moment or conversation be wasted.
Look to the Future, and embrace change and new possibilities.
Learn from the Past, and never miss a teachable moment.
P.S. I’m waiting for the day that my daughter comes to me and mentions that she wants to put more glittering items in her nose, specifically a piercing. You better believe I’ll have this post handy.